How do you know when the time is right for another child?
My husband and I have a 20 month old son, and he told me the other day he wants to have another child but for our children not to be more than three years apart (our son turns two in March). I was excited about it because I have been wanting another child ever since ours started walking. But on the other hand I am scared. First of all, I am afraid of the pain my first pregnancy was induced then I had a cesarean because of high blood pressure. I can think about the pulling on my skin to take the baby out, the gagging because of anaesthsia, the spinal tap which hurt bad, and all the pain from the surgery and feel nautious. Another thing was postpartum depression I stayed depressed for several months and eventually got over it. The feedings, from formula to solids, breaking bottles again, potty training it all seems so complicated even though I have done it. On the other hand my son is perfectly healthy, gorgeous, and I don’t want to regret later not having anymore children. Advice?
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You never know the right time…..some parents will tell you the benefits of having them all together within 3 yrs of one another and the others will tell you the benefits of waiting. My advice is to keep them within 3 yrs of one another…it’s a whole new ball game when you haven’t carried a diaper bag and bottles for 5-7 years and have to repeat the process. Good luck and there is no right or wrong.
You can take all of your previous situations into account when choosing whether or not it is time to have another child. No pregnancy or birth is going to be exactly the same. If you had post partum depression before you can talk to the doctor about starting you on meds right away to help you cope. No one can tell you if it is time for you to have another child. It is a personal choice you have to make.
I would say to just keep them close in age within 3-4 years. Mine are 11,9,7. It would be much hard to start over if it was 5-7 years apart.
If you want another, have it now. My daughter is now 9 and I really regret not having another one when she was 2 or 3. I’m now not wanting to go back and do all of that over again because it’s been so long, but I definitely would have back then!
You won’t be sorry for having a child, but you might be sorry if you don’t. As for fear of childbirth- every birth is different. First of all, the problems you described with your first are more likely to happen with a first child, and less likely with subsequent children. I had a very hard delivery with my second child, and was scared to death through my pregnancy with my third. I prayed an prayed, and God answered in a big way. I went to the hospital one night and told them I thought I might be in labor. 45 minutes later, my daughter was born. I felt very little pain, and for a while was convinced that it was just a dream and I would wake up and have to go through "real" labor. But it wasn’t a dream, it was really that easy. I’m not saying your next delivery will be that easy, just that you never know. You both want another child. If God chooses to bless you with one- go ahead!
Listen to a old story.A man took his pregnant wife to hospital for delivery.Since he was poor he asked the doctor,when can he have his next child.The doctor thought and replied-Next time when you feel the urge,think whether you can feed him or not. After one year again the man took his wife for second delivery to the same hospital.In the meanwhle,he had become a virtual pauper with no money to feed his wife.The doctor got angry and enquired of him.What made you to go for another when I had told you to ask a question to yourself.The man replied, "doctor,I did as you told but believe me when I asked to myself whether I can feed another mouth or not,at that instant I felt I can feed the entire population on this earth ".Hope you’ve got your answer.